Confidence is essential if you want to unlock your full life potential. It is a key factor that allows us to be what we actually are.
Lack of confidence oppresses our personality, development and life experiences.
It makes us make decisions that we’d otherwise not have made. It leads us to insecurity; something that can change the entire manner in which we interact with others.
The good news is that you can increase your confidence by simply working to make it better. It’s something you can nurture to bloom like a flower.
Confidence is essentially made up of various aspects of who you are. This includes appearance and mannerisms; the way you speak and the way you conduct yourself.
But the one thing central to increasing confidence is the ability to accept and love yourself for what you are, not to change who you are to appease others. To start working on becoming more confident you need to be able to assess the factors that make you feel less confident and address them actively each day.
If you think that you have been curbing your free spirit due to issues related with self-confidence, then the time has come for you to blossom and break out of your shell. Reach for the sky by learning how to be more confident with these 10 steps:
1. Start Being Yourself
The most important aspect of being self-confident is to be yourself. When you act without over-analyzing about what is the right thing to do or what other people might say about your decisions, you become free to step into your own character – the real you.
Irrespective of the manner in which other people may expect you to behave, you need to remember that your life is only yours and that you have a right to lead it the way you want it to. Understand that you should not feel guilty about following your heart and doing what comes naturally.
2. Take Care Of Your Appearance
While it isn’t the be all and end all, and certainly shouldn’t be the sole defining aspect of who you are, it is important that you take some pride in how presentable you look, at least.
This does not mean that you need to get a facelift or start a crash celebrity diet, it simply means taking pride in personal hygiene, and wearing clothes that reflect your personality and complement your appearance.
Feeling good in what you wear, and taking care of personal hygiene, will boost your confidence around others.
3. Start Walking Tall!
Walking says a lot about how you feel. A slow and sloppy walk can be an indicator that a person is downtrodden. On the other hand, a quick gait indicates confidence and control.
Start walking like you mean business. Be proud of who you are, lift your head, back straight and let positive energy flow through you as you stride with purpose.
4. Invest In Knowledge
An unconfident person is further disadvantaged without knowledge, and the more you learn the more you will have to contribute in group circles – both at work and at play.
Sharpen your brain and keep yourself up to date with what’s going on in the world. This will help you in voicing your opinion in social situations, and increase your interest among others.
5. Start Using Eye Contact
Looking at the person you are talking to is an important aspect of confidence. When you look someone in the eye, you are acknowledging the person respectfully and demonstrating that you are not afraid or apprehensive of what you are saying or doing.
Eye contact displays honesty and integrity, and being able to hold eye contact in important situations will advance your confidence and life opportunities.
6. Use Positive Affirmations
Using positive words can make a huge difference in the manner in which you think and act. Start using positive affirmations like “I will succeed,” “I am a capable, likable person with bundles of ability,” and you will soon realize how words impact thoughts and thoughts impact actions.
Tell yourself you believe in yourself and you shall!
7. Stop Making Comparisons With Others
One of the most important ways to gain self-confidence is to stop comparing yourself with other people. You are not someone else!
You have been made unique and different from others, and you must embrace that uniqueness to thrive. Comparing yourself with others undermines your individuality; something that only you possess.
Be yourself and people will love you for who you are. Act like someone else and you’re just a copy, a fake.
8. Note Your Accomplishments
If it is becoming tough for you to keep your head up, list your accomplishments to create a positive framework from which to work. Don’t belittle anything that you have accomplished: what may appear as simple, small things, are actually epic achievements you should be proud of.
It could be a work promotion you were given, a club award, the fact you’ve raised a lovely child, a weight loss target you reached, or perhaps an illness you’ve gotten over. List the positive things in you’re doing and you’ve done in life to boost confidence.
9. Exercise & Exercise Some More
Sure, exercise can help you get into shape so that you feel better about yourself and gain confidence through how you look. But on a day-today basis it’s a proven fact that exercise keeps you feeling more positive due to the ‘happy hormones’ released into the body when you exercise.
And so, even if you can only manage a brisk 20 minute walk each day, do it!
10. Learn To Love Yourself
Lastly, and most importantly, learn to accept who you are and love yourself for being that person. Only when you learn to accept yourself will you be able to attract the respect, love and goodwill of other people.
The fact is, more than likely people already love you for who you are, yet you just can’t see it because your perception is colored by your own lack of self-esteem. Life’s too short to criticize yourself and want to change. Accept you for you, and start being confident in your own skin today. One life, one you, one unique sequence of moments, each gone forever once they pass.
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